Carers Support Group
We welcome anyone in support of somebody with an eating disorder to come along to our supporters group on a Wednesday evening from 7.30-8.45pm. Come along for an informal chat over a cup of tea or coffee. Meet others in the same boat and receive support, insight and guidance from our experienced Support Workers. No need to book, just pop in to the Life House, 715 Wimborne Road, Bournemouth. BH9 2AU. If you wish to be added to our Carer’s contact list, please contact us and we will keep you up to date with regular emails.
Carers 1:1 Support
We offer 1:1 support for anyone caring for someone with an eating disorder. Please call the office or email us to book an appointment. These appointments are based at the Lifehouse, 715 Wimborne Road, Bournemouth, BH9 2AU.
The NHS Carer Support Group
For carers of young people: From 7pm-8.30pm on the last Wednesday of every month at Kimmeridge Court, 69 Haven Road, Canford Cliffs, Poole, BH13 7LN, tel:01202 492147. For any carers: From 7pm-8:30pm on the last Thursday of every month at Kimmeridge Court Eating Disorder Service. St Ann’s Hospital, 59 Haven Road, Poole, BH13 7LN.
"What can I say? Having tried to support my daughter (31) who has been suffering from Anorexia for over 10 years, although I only found out 7 years ago that she was ill, Restored have been there during the hardest times – watching my daughter hit ‘rock bottom’ and waiting for treatment. The despair of watching your daughter disappear before your eyes, each day that goes by and being utterly powerless to do anything to change the tide – until you live the experience, it cannot be understood.
I had been searching for some support for me, to make sense of what was happening, why my daughter, what could be the path to recovery? I had asked the GP, the Eating Disorders service treating my daughter, the Health Authority Counselling services……but nobody could offer me any support (the best offers I had were anti-depressants or a carers group for those with cancer/physical disabilities or dementia).
By chance, I found Restored whilst doing an internet search for help & support for carers and from my first visit to their carers support group, I felt that at last, there were people who would support me, help me, listen to me, understand me and most of all…not judge me.
I met other families who were in the same position as me as well as mothers who have daughters who are on the path to recovery – they were able to empathise but also give hope – hope that recovery is possible.
The weekly group meeting affords us all the opportunity to be understood – we can say ANYTHING and not feel stupid, as everybody’s thoughts and feelings are respected. Many tears can be shed (something we cannot do at home) but we laugh too. Everybody, staff and members of the group UNDERSTAND without having to explain about the complexities of this horrendous illness that robs us of our daughters and plunges the families into a huge downward spiral from which there seems no escape and no end.
The staff team understand our fears and hopes and ‘get’ where we are coming from, they never fail to give the right support and sound suggestions and advice throughout the roller coaster of a journey we have to endure, they genuinely CARE. The other parents in the group give hugs when needed, share information about treatment paths, approaches to different problems – somebody has always had to find a way through the latest issue the illness has thrown up, tips, tricks and a sound information base regarding the vagaries of the NHS treatment of this insidious illness.
The staff team engaged my daughter in their mentoring scheme and this was the turning point for her, as she then found the strength to believe she could possibly recover and to seek inpatient treatment to start her journey – she holds on to the fact that when she is discharged, Restored will be there to support her in continuing her journey to help her believe that she can recover and there are people who care about her, because of WHO she is, not WHAT she is.
So, Restored to me has meant (and continues to mean) – LIFE, HOPE, SUPPORT. Without Restored, I dread to think where my daughter and I would be. I constantly thank goodness that I stumbled across their details, because without them……….I dare not think where we would be now."
For more information about Carer Support, click here to see our leaflet.